In the last few months a lot of my friends have shared the awesome news of their pregnancy. I have pregnant friends both in Costa Rica and in the US and I’ve noticed that when they announce their pregnancy is a cultural thing.
All of my Costa Rican friends announced their pregnancy as soon as they found out. I saw on Facebook a home pregnancy test picture or a picture of their blood work results. They weren’t even 6 weeks along when they shared the news.
All my US friends shared their pregnancy news anytime between 13-20 weeks.
(I’m not saying all Costa Ricans or Americans do it this way but this is what I’ve personally experienced.)
Why do my American friends wait to announce their pregnancy?
The main reason is because they don’t want to announce it too early due to the possibility of having a miscarriage. I too had this fear and announced my first pregnancy when I was about 12 weeks.
Miscarriage is the loss of a pregnancy in the first 20 weeks. About 10 to 20 percent of known pregnancies end in miscarriage, and more than 80 percent of these losses happen before 12 weeks. Source.
But what if you announced your pregnancy early and end up having a miscarriage? I think if I were to announce my pregnancy as soon as I found out and had a miscarriage I would find support in all my family and friends.
Miscarriage is a very common thing that no one talks about but it should be something we talk more about because it is common and because if it were to happen to us we can find support in a mom that has gone through it. If we keep the pregnancy to ourselves we might not have a chance to talk to this mom about our loss since she probably kept it to herself too.
The more I think about it, the less I believe that a fear for miscarriage should be the reason for you to keep the pregnancy to yourself for a while, especially if you’re very excited about it and want to share the joy.
I’m not saying we should share it with every single person we know but our close friends and family is a start. Those first weeks of pregnancy are rough: you’re usually tired all the time and very nauseous. If your group of close people knew about it they could help you with meals or maybe watching your kid so you can nap.
For my second pregnancy, I announced that I was pregnant when I was about 8 weeks and two weeks later I had a huge bleed. I thought I had lost the baby but turns out I had a subchorionic hemorrhage. The next 8 weeks were really rough on me and I’m thankful I had announced my pregnancy early because I had the support of my friends and family.
Ultimately it’s your choice and you should announce your pregnancy when you feel it’s right but you might find that having that support from early on is really helpful.
When did you announce your pregnancy?
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