There comes a time in pregnancy where you just feel downright miserable. Miserable.
You feel like you’re ready to give birth to your child but at the same time you don’t want to because you know the little bun is not done cooking in your oven… That last month or two of pregnancy seems to be the hardest part of it all for most women.
Don’t get me wrong, I am grateful for this baby and even more so after I thought I lost her. I wouldn’t want her to come early and have to deal with her being in the NICU but this late in pregnancy everything seems so much harder.
So for those of you that are pregnant right now, in the end of your third trimester, know that you’re not alone. I definitively feel bad about feeling bad. I never thought pregnancy would be so rough on my body until I was actually pregnant. But feeling miserable it’s just one part of being pregnant and there’s nothing wrong with it.
I’ve come to the conclusion that mother nature made pregnancy this way so you’d actually look forward to going into labor. Yes, labor is a lot of pain, a lot of pain, but it’s only for one day and all the aches and sores are immediately gone when the baby comes…the best part, for sure, is that you’re rewarded with a cute bundle of joy!
Now when I see another pregnant mom like me, I give her the “I know how you feel” smile and she smiles back…because we both know what it feels like.
The hardest part of the end of pregnancy boils down to several things:
- Feel so huge that you can’t lean forward when eating.
- Not being able to sit comfortably.
- Not being able to sleep comfortably.
- Having to get up many times a night to pee and then not being able to fall back asleep.
- Having your stomach so squished up that you can’t eat much and when you do actually eat is only to end up with heart burn.
- Dealing with nausea and vomiting for the entire pregnancy (this might not be the case for everyone but that’s how it goes for me.)
- Walking like a penguin.
- Feeling like the baby is going to fall out of the vagina at any moment.
- The lower abdominal pain that comes with carrying a big baby.
- The pressure on the cervix. Seriously.
- Being so tired and sleepy all the time. Can I just sleep until labor?
- All those “practice” contractions (Braxton Hicks) that are just so uncomfortable.
- Feeling guilty about not wanting to do anything (especially now that I have a toddler)
I’ve found that the only 2 things that have helped me get through is complaining to my mommy friends (they get it!) and going twice a week to the chiropractor to help with the pain and discomfort. Also, the occasional dessert and chocolate definitely make it bearable. Haha! But I have definitively turned into a complaining whining pregnant lady.
The last 2 months of pregnancy everyone is in survival mode, just trying to make it through – and even more so if you have other kids to take care of.
I can’t tell you how many times I got excited thinking that maybe I was in labor, just to realized I wasn’t. Pregnancy is one of the hardest things I’ve had to do but at the end it’s all worth it.
Don’t let this stage encourage you to get induced, a natural birth is so much easier on your body. And remember, that baby is not going to stay in there forever – sooner or later she’ll have to come out. 🙂
I wish I had some amazing advice for all the pregnant moms on how to overcome this stage, but the truth is, I don’t. The only thing that will make it better is having that baby.
If you’re pregnant right now and feeling terrible, know that you’re not alone. We’ve all felt that way, whether we talk about it or not and it’s completely normal. Hugs mama, hugs!
Are you pregnant and due soon? What’s the hardest part for you? How are you coping with it?
If you’re reading this and have a pregnant friend, this is the right time to invite her for lunch or dinner, get her a massage, take over the household so she can nap and bring lots of ice cream. 🙂
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Charlee @ Humble in a Heartbeat says
Being pregnant with a toddler is insane! I am so glad your baby is doing well. You have a darling baby bump! You can do this, mama!!
Stevie J. says
I’m due in 6 days. I almost get mad when someone points out how “little” I am. I only gained about 22 lbs but it certainly doesn’t feel like it! At 19 with my first child 12 years ago, I gained 45 lbs and did fantastic! At 31, my body isnt dealing with this pregnancy near as well this time around. My hips and butt get these random pains that bring me to my knees. Then I can’t get up and 9× outta 10, thise pains come right back when I finally do manage to squabble up off the ground. I’m ravenously hungry but I take two bites of something and I want to cry the pain and pressure becomes so intense. And then there’s the sleeping situation… or lack there of I should say. Honestly I’ve gotten MAYBE 10 hours of sleep in the past week. I’m a zombie. And theres those people who actually ask how im doing… then retort with a “Well enjoy the sleep while you can!” When I say I’m just tired and can never sleep. Lesson learned. “I’m great! I feel like I could be pregnant for the rest of my life! Peachy freaking keen!” ?? I’m so out of it that I can barely keep track of what day it is. RLS… you and I have beef! Can’t breathe, get comfy, heartburn alone will make raise up outta bed like a blood thirsty vampire! I’m ready…I’M SO BEYOND READY! GET. THIS. NINJA. OUT OF ME! As I reread this, I think I’m being a total baby. I know. But venting is my only go to. 6 days Stevie. Hopefully no longer and possibly shorter than that. 6 days. 6 days. 6 days. Like a broken record…
Carolina says
Oh mama! I feel like I’m reading my own thoughts when I was at the end of pregnancy. It is so rough and I think people don’t realize or just forget. I actually think I got more sleep with a newborn than at the end of pregnancy. I don’t even know how you can actually rest when you’re feeling like a whale and have a little kicker waking you up all night (or the need to pee). I am hoping your little one decides to make an early appearance! Good luck!
Anonymous says
I honestly feel the same way I’m at the end of my pregnancy I feel like it’s never going to end I’ve been feeling horrible can’t sleep I have other children to me once your baby is born it’s not bad at all people say get your rest now but how when your uncomfortable can’t breathe with all these different pains ? just waiting on my love to arrive hopefully soon so I can feel normal again!
Carolina says
The end of pregnancy is SO HARD and people that say you should get rest now have probably forgotten what it’s like to be pregnant! I hope your baby comes soon!
Anonymous says
And I cant tell you if you are expecting twins…like me!
Carolina says
I am not… mamas of twins are superheroes in my book! You’re amazing mama!
Anon says
Just came across this post and oh my it’s is needed at this time. I have been in pre labour for a week already and still looks like bubba wants to cook. I have constantly got an upset tummy and can’t stop being sick and I defently just feel miserable!! Can’t wait for established labour cause I know pregnancy is coming to an end!!!
Carolina says
Oh no mama! I know exactly how you feel…when I was going through that it was almost losing my mind. On a good note all this prelabour stuff made my actual labor less painful and faster. I hope yours ends up the same way or better than mine. ❤️
Rachel Boyd says
I am 28 weeks and feel so bad because I feel huge and like I am ready to blow. This has been an extremely difficult pregnancy and even more difficult for my relationship with my partner. My little fella needs more time to cook and I know this. I am just miserable. I know I sound like a big baby but this is how I feel and I can’t help it. I pray god blesses us with at least 4 more weeks. It’s just getting thru those 4 weeks or more ?????????
Carolina says
I am so sorry mama! Sounds like you’re going through a really rough phase and it brings me back to when I was towards the end of my pregnancies…and it just hard. Hang in there mama! I hope it goes fast for you and things get better with your partner. Hopefully he can support you and be there for you now more than ever. Hugs!
Anonymous says
This is exactly how I feel now!!!!this article couldnt have described what I am going through daily any better.
Carolina says
Oh mama! I’m sorry you’re in the rough part. This is the part I dislike the most about pregnancy but I’m hoping you’re pretty far along and will get to meet your little one soon! 🙂
Katy says
Due in 3 days but I think I’m going to go pass the due date. The worst part is sleep… or lack of I should say. Worse than that though is I caught a cold so feeling terrible, can’t sleep, and being full term… miserable!
Carolina says
Katy I know! Why is it soooo hard to sleep when you’re pregnant? It’s really frustrating!
On a good note I got a cold and almost as soon as it was over I went into labor. Hope this means you’re really close too. Good luck mama! Hugs!
Jai says
Everything in this article is too real, plus working full time on top of it all. I’m a delivery driver so constantly running around haha
My hips and knees are always hurting
Carolina says
Oh no! That sounds so rough. I hope your close to your due date!
Esty says
I am in my last 2 months and I feel achy all the time . The acid reflux is all the time now and I can’t even lay down cause oh boy, I’ve been getting more nausea than ever. The feeling of throwing up all the time and not to mention I’ve had sinusitis the whole entire pregnancy, congestion and clogged nose :'(. I can’t wait till its over but I also can’t wait to meet my little one.
Chrissy Gorham says
I’m 34 weeks and I only have 4 weeks to go. Having a C-Section cause I’m high risk. When I came upon this article I about cried in relief. I am so miserable that I feel like I’m dying at times. This is my first pregnancy and I’m almost 37 years old. I’m a bigger woman so I was definitely not in good shape upon getting pregnant. I’m swollen all over and can barely walk cause of the pelvic pain. I just want this to be over! On the other hand, I am overjoyed that I have been able to carry almost full term with zero complications but I’m done lol. If not for my amazing partner taking care of me and our 3 other kids during this time things would be so much worse!!