Once you have a kid your life gets so busy… It’s so easy to get sucked into the routine, it’s so easy to forget about yourself and forget to show your partner how much they mean to you.
I feel very blessed to be married to my husband. He is the most amazing man I’ve ever met and I don’t ever want him to feel less than that. When you see statistics about marriage and divorce, it’s scary. Divorce is such a common thing and it is something I never want to go through. I’ve dated enough to know that the man I married is the one for me. I never want to forget this and I never want him to forget it… so every time I can I show him how much I love him.
I am not a relationship expert but this always makes our days so much more special and filled with love.
Here are my 8 ways to show my husband just how much I care:
Give him a massage:
I hate giving massages so much that before I married my husband I warned him that I would never massage him but massages can be something so intimate and a way to show how much you care… there’s something about touch! I am not one to give a professional massage session but I love caressing my husband to show him how much I love him. When we’re watching a movie I caress his arm, or scratch his head. When we’re in bed I rub his belly until we fall asleep. I don’t do this every day, so when I do he really notices it and loves it.
Call him during the day, out of the blue, just to ask how he’s doing:
Days can go by that I don’t call my husband just because. I usually call because I need something or I want to tell or ask him something. Every now and then I like to call him just to ask him how he’s doing and remind him how much I love him.
Buy him a small gift, just because:
I love buying small gifts for my husband. It’s a great way to show you’re thinking about them when you’re not together. Bonus points if it’s something he’s been talking about for a while. Gifts are not only for birthdays, Christmas or special occasions. They are a way to say I love you. It doesn’t have to big, unless you want to! 😉
Cook his favorite meal:
This is an oldie but goodie. Make your partner’s favorite meal. Nothing says I care about you like a home cooked meal. Bonus points if you have it ready when he walks in the house on a day he’s expecting to eat leftovers.
Take him out on a date:
Even if it’s with your kids. Tell your partner you want to take him out on a date and do something he loves to do. During that time make it all about him and enjoy it! When I do something my husband loves doing it makes him so happy and it always turns out to be a great day for everyone.
Kiss him, like you did when you met:
We kiss each other every day, several times a day but we don’t always give passionate kisses to each other like the ones we gave when we met. One of my favorite things is to come up to him and kiss him! Give him a big, wet kiss! It almost feels like the world stops for a few seconds and you’re there, in the moment, feeling. Do this one several times a week!
Write a love note and put it in a place where he’ll find it after he’s left the house:
This might sound like cliché but putting a love note inside your husband’s briefcase or laptop is a sweet way for them to be reminded of how much they mean to you. You can make it something sweet or sexy. Make it whatever you want. Your husband will see it when he’s busy during the day and it will be a nice break from whatever is going on that day. I bet he’ll even call you to tell you how much he loved your note.
Tell him how you feel:
It’s easy to assume our partner knows we love him and doesn’t need to hear it from us. But sometimes hearing it makes a difference, especially if things are rough or you haven’t had alone time as a couple. I don’t mean just say “I love you” as he’s leaving. Sit down, have some time together, talk about your day, you future and tell him how you feel about him, what he means to you, how much you appreciate having him in your life… Look into his eyes and make sure he knows he is your all.
Showing you care and love each other is not only good for you and your relationship but it’s good for you kids too. What they see in you and your partner is what they will expect in a relationship in the future. Also, seeing their parents show love to each other makes kids happy (even when they feel “grossed out” about it). Nothing makes a family bond stronger than having a loving marriage.
Would you add any other tips to this list?