Bringing a human being into this world is an amazing gift, it is something so powerful that you can only understand it once you’ve been through it. But these little beings are not ready for this world and that’s when our work as mamas begins…
My baby needs me for everything right now. She can’t eat by herself, she can’t play by herself, she can’t change her diaper, she can’t put herself to sleep, she can’t even sit on her own and instead of seeing this as a burden, I see it as a gift.
This is the only time in my life and her life that she will need me this much… I’ve been told by mamas that have been through this to enjoy every moment because babies will grow into adults so fast that you will miss these days…and I believe it!
My baby is only 5 months old and I can already see how much she has grown and changed in such a sort time.
I know we all have things to do and it is easy to get caught up in those daily tasks, but some things are more important than others. Motherhood is the time to define priorities! It can get overwhelming at times, we might need a break, and that’s ok, but don’t lose sight of the bigger picture: You are your baby’s world and she needs you right now more than ever!
There are days when I’m tired from nursing several times at night, but when I see that precious face and know I’m giving her the best gift, I don’t care about being tired. My house doesn’t need to be perfectly clean, my meals don’t have to look like a gourmet meal, my social life doesn’t need to be as active as it used to be, nothing is really as important as my baby, because she NEEDS me right now.
I don’t mind putting my life on hold or being fat for a few months for my baby. If I’m lucky, I’ll live to be 80 years old so what’s a year of putting everything in my life on hold for this baby? For me it’s nothing.
Once I realized this, I could enjoy every second with her without getting frustrated if I didn’t have enough time to get things done! I look into her eyes and see so much love, all she wants is to be with me, all she knows is me and I’m not going to deny her this time or any of her needs. I’m not going to try to train her so I can accommodate her in my schedule. I’m going to follow her leads and follow her cues to give her what she needs right now.
Some people will think I’m spoiling her. I believe I’m not. I’m teaching her she can count on me and that I’ll always be here for her. One day, when she grows up and leaves our home, she will know she has my support in everything she wants to do, just as I have it from my mom. And from what I’ve seen, babies that are attended to when they are in need grow up to be confident kids. By attending to your kids needs now, you raise an independent child that won’t be scared to take a leap.
I know us mamas are doing the best we can but I don’t agree with fitting baby into my schedule, I believe my schedule should be around my baby, at least for those months of life.
She’s all that matters, I’m all she needs and I’m going to stop worrying about everything else and about what other people say… I’m her mama until the day I die.