It feels like it was just a few days ago when we thought quarantine was going to last 2 weeks… As we are gearing up to our 8th month of this, there are some things I want to share with you. Things that I think are important to keep in mind as we go through this year of uncertainty and as our children face the strangest start of their school year.
I am believer that we are more than our physical bodies, we are powerful yet kind souls who embarked on this journey of coming to Earth during a time of a lot of change. And yes, there are many days that feel hard, that we wonder why all of this is happening, sleepless night where we ask ourselves how are we going to pull it off…
Even though every family situation is different and every families has its own worries, most people are worrying, hurting or feeling scared in some way. It’s normal to feel this way with everything that’s happening.
But I want to remind you of something very important and that is that you wouldn’t be here, during this time, if your soul knew you couldn’t handle it.
I believe we are all here because we CAN do this, because we wanted to be part of one of this big change, because our soul, our higher self wanted to be here. Same goes for our children, they are their own person, their own soul, and they are meant to be here at this time. If we weren’t meant to be here, we wouldn’t be here – it’s truly as simple as that, but that doesn’t mean we just sit back and do nothing.
This time has led me to go deeper into meditation, to tap more into my spiritual side and it’s also made me question so many things about how we were living our lives.
I’ve wondered why would I want to be here during time? But if one thing life has taught me is that, most of the time, we won’t know the answer to this question until the events have passed and sometimes we won’t even know them at all. But if you look back at your life, you’ll realize that you have made it through it all. You have experienced hard things in the past, and have made it through. You will do the same now, at your own time, and in your own pace.
I believe our souls wanted to be here for whatever it is we will end up learning, experiencing and gaining on a deeper level – both on a personal level and on a global level.
And now, more than ever, it is so important to remember this. To remember that we are more than just our bodies, to remember that we don’t die and, poof!, disappear. We don’t know for sure what happens exactly after we die, but countless of books, studies and stories talk about a powerful feeling of unconditional love and the eternity of our souls.
It’s important to remember this because no amount of worrying, fear or stress will make your situation better or will change your situation for the better.
This is the time to realize that change, knowing what to do next, feeling at peace, only comes when we are not in a constant state of fear, when we can clearly think and feel, when we give ourselves space to simply be okay with uncertainty.
This doesn’t mean giving up, this means taking action from a place of calmness and not panic. This means making decisions from a place of internal security and not uncertainty. This means knowing that when you are stressed, your body simply doesn’t function the same and our decision might be skewed.
This is a time to learn how to be okay with uncertainty. And let me tell you something, life has always been uncertain, it’s just that the current situations heighten our awareness of uncertainty. But no one walking on this Earth can guarantee that they will wake up tomorrow, and this is why we find teachings and even research, talking about the importance of living in the now. There are even entire books dedicated to this, like The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle.
Living in the now is exactly what we’re being forced to do. Living in the now doesn’t mean you don’t ever think about the past or make plans for the future. Living in the now means you let go of what you cannot control and you immerse yourself in where you currently are. When you have to make a decision that will impact the future your presence in the now, your calmness, will become an ally to make the right decision.
When we live in the now, when we try to let go of our fear and anger, we make room for our intuition to help us out along the way. How many times have you read a book about someone’s life path, career, destiny changing because they had a hunch they followed? Intuition is real, it’s your life compass and it’s time to make space in our mind so we can listen to our heart.
This is the time to quiet down all the noise so you can feel that inner hunch. Meditation is a also a great tool for this. But meditation doesn’t work if you only do it once, it’s an intentional thing that you aim to do daily, for about 15 minutes.
There have been countless studies done on the power of meditation, there are brain scans that show the benefits of incorporating meditation in your life long term. Meditation helps us tune in with our higher self, which leads to a more fulfilling life. All the answers lie within you. It’s time to start listening to yourself, not to the noise in your brain, but listening to what the calm part of yourself is saying.
I’m sharing this with you because I have found this to the best way to stay sane through all of this. And maybe this isn’t your way, but maybe, just maybe, this is your way to find that inner peace. And it’s worth a shot!
No amount of fear will change our current pandemic situation but any amount of peace will help by shinning a light along the way.
As you go through all of this, think about your children. They are watching you, they can sense when you’re upset or calm. And they are learning from you how to deal with adversity. Look at yourself and ask yourself: is this how I want my children to handle future challenges in life?
Because you and I know that our children will experience challenges, as much as we don’t want them too. In fact, they are experiencing this challenge right now.
And how they will remember this time and what they will do with this time comes so much from how YOU are acting during this time. They are watching you because you are their guide, you are the light in a dark tunnel leading the way.
A lot of people have to work long hours, with kids at home who have to spend long hours entertaining themselves. If this is your situation, please stop feeling guilty. Let’s remember both you and your child’s soul came to this life knowing they would be going through this life-changing process together.
Do your best, and show your children, every chance you get, how much you love them. This is what they need the most of right now.
One last thing, be kind. I have seen so much hate and arguing on the internet lately. But here’s what people seem to forget, most people are acting from a place of fear, doing things they believe will keep them safe or that feel right to them. And since we live in a world filled with all sorts of different people, it’s only natural that groups of people are approaching this situation in different ways.
Instead of judging them, arguing, let’s remember everyone is doing what they think is best because they are scared, just like you are scared.
This is not the time to spread hate and anger, this is the time for compassion, kindness and love, even with people you don’t agree with. Remove yourself from negative situations, this simple act will stop the spread of all this judgement, anger and fear.
If you’re still reading this, my friend, it’s because this resonates with you. It’s because deep down you know the answer is not fear and anger, the answer for each and every one of us lies within and it’s accessible through calmness, letting go of what you cannot control, and love.
All of us are more than our bodies, and all of us have a heart yearning for love and acceptance. Those dark thoughts and fears that you have, I can guarantee someone else does too, in fact, everyone does. Maybe the situation is different, maybe their fears are different, but even the most put together, secure person you know has moments of deep fear, uncertainty, anger and sadness.
Remember this when interacting with others, because when you do, you have compassion for others… And don’t you want your child to grow in a world full of compassionate people? The way to do this, is by being the change you wish to see in our world.
Surround yourself with things and people who uplift you and help you stay aligned with unconditional love and hope. You are a powerful being, you and everyone else. Stop doubting yourself and start meditating more.
P.S. If you need a little encouragement? Watch my Instagram stories – I make the intentional effort to post uplifting information every day to keep us all going and to remind us of the things that truly matter.